"Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV)
You have never heard a person giving the eulogy at a funeral celebrate how wonderful the deceased life's was and how so many peole were significantly touched because that person was abusive, a drunk, and selfish. We innately know those things are wrong and not to be spoken of at a funeral, true or not. We would rather speak of characteristics of like kindness, hard-working, and selflessness, true or not, because we all innately value and celebrate those things. My question is, why? If evolution is true and we are all simply products of random chance processes over billions of years, why would we celebrate that which is not consistent with "survival of the fittest." You know, be selfish, lie, and do whatever it takes to get ahead. The answer is simple - we were created in God's loving and selfless image, and so we naturally gravitate to those characteristics. No one naturally celebrates selfishness, and that is because, God is absolutely selfless. If we, who are Jesus followers, are going to be like our Heavenly Father, we must embrace His selfless heart. We must be totally "others centered." We must be a "there you are!" person instead of a "Here I am!" person. What would the person giving your eulogy say about you. Would he or she have to make stuff up, or would they be able to speak truthfully, celebrating your life as selfless, Christlike, and others-centered. Ask God to empower you to live a life that looks out for others as much (if not more) than you look out for yourself. A full and joyful life can only be experienced in selfless living. It's God's design for you.