"All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” Song of Songs 4:7 (NIV)
Most females find their worth and value in their relationships and outward appearance. Guys, on the other hand, tend to find their value by accomplishments and how high they are on the masculine, social status chain. No matter, the Bible says that neither of these determines value and worth. The above scripture was written by King Solomon, one of the greatest kings the world has ever known. It is a dialogue between King Solomon and his “beloved” (the one he was courting). Many scholars believe this book is symbolic of Jesus and His church, talking about the intimacy that God desires with his people. In one of the opening verses of this book, the “beloved” says of herself, “Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun. My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards.” (1:6) Interpretation: Turn away from me, all the hard and labor intensive work I have been doing for many years have made me ugly. Don’t look at me, I am not pretty to look at.
Have you ever felt that way? We all have; it’s human nature, and human nature, because it is fallen and broken, very rarely gets things correct. And, measuring value and worth by appearance, is no different. The reality is, our outward appearance is decaying and dying, which means it has no lasting value. It makes no sense to pursue and invest time, energy, and money in something that can’t give life. Jesus came, not to change our outward appearances, but our inward dispositions (hearts). Jesus came to make us “flawless” before a Holy God. He came to wash our sins away and change us from the inside out. He is concerned with our hearts not our hair. He wants to have a meaningful relationship with us, but our hearts, must be His first. If you have confessed your sins and received Christ, you are truly beautiful and flawless in Gods His eyes. In light of this, spend the majority of your time investing in the spiritual (true) you and not the physical (decaying) you. As the Bible says in 1 Peter 3:3-4, “Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” (NLT). Pray for God to help you focus on the things that are truly precious to Him. He thinks your beautiful, and His opinion is the only one that matters.