“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.
“You parents—if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him. Matthew 7:7-12 (NLT)
How I wish you could understand the heart of a parent! It would help you understand these verses so much easier. My mom always said to me, “You will understand better when you are a parent.” She was right.
Parent’s innately desire to give good things to their children. It doesn’t have to be taught, it is just God-given. There are exceptions to this. The parent who is an addict, or the who has experienced abuse, and now abuses. Parents who act out in this way don’t want to be like that; they are simply trapped by their addictions and patterns.
Even “good” parents are side-tracked by sin, in their own parenting, and fail to love their children adequately. This is not true of God. He is perfect in His love for us and there is not even a shadow in His character and care toward us.
He is excited to give us “good things” - things that will enhance our ability to live productive lives that bless Him and others.
Don’t be fooled, His parenting also involves discipline (Hebrews 12:3-11). Discipline is beneficial for us, because it teaches us what is good and right. Don't resist it, let it produce righteousness in you.
Since we have a Heavenly Father who joyfully gives to His children, we don’t have to beg and grovel, we simply have to ask.
Here is the catch. Our asking must be birthed from an already existing relationship with Him. Not a relationship where we only ask when we are in need. The asking Jesus is talking about is the asking that comes from a continuing and growing relationship with Him.
We know how this works. We have all experienced a so-called friend who only came around when they needed something. We wouldn’t call those times spent together a relationship, and definitely not a friendship; we would call it “being used.” In the same way, Jesus teaches that God the Father doesn’t want a, “Hi, I am here for help again” relationship. He want’s a, “Hi, I know we talk everyday, but today I have an issue” kind of relationship.
So keep spending time with Him, your Good Dad. Listen to Him through prayer, spiritual mentors, and the Word. And in your time with Him, when it is your turn to speak, talk to Him about anything; and if you are in need of His help, simply ask. He loves for you to ask so He can give “good things” to you.